Words by Thapelo

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will break my confidence, words will break my trust,
words will linger in my head until who I am becomes who I was.
I was a child when I first heard those words.
The words started out small.
When I heard them once, I didn’t care, Twice, still didn’t care.
But when I heard them from multiple people, that’s when it really hurt.
I wondered how far people will go because of that word, pretty far I guess.
It feels like that word is a tattoo permanently engraved on my being.
People say actions speak louder than words but I completely disagree, because it is words that have truly hurt me, more so than actions have.
Has that word scraped every single ounce
of respect I deserve?
Every dignity, worth and probity I should have?
I wonder to the people who carelessly stab me with your words,
Do you ever wonder how sharp your blade is?
How deeply it cut?
Because every single time I hear that word, Anxiety rises like lava in a volcano, Thinking they may know,
Wondering do I say yes or no?
Just leave me alone!…
How is it that words affect me so much?
Is it because words become beliefs, once you’re forced to start agreeing?

(The Poem was written by 15-year-old Thapelo Mokoena)

How we talk to ourselves, and others matters in how we see ourselves. Words have an enormous influence on how we view ourselves, even though we might not realize it. Whether it’s what others say to us or what we say to ourselves, it all adds up to the story we believe about who we are.

Think of positive affirmations as a superpower for feeling good about ourselves. When we keep telling ourselves positive stuff, it makes us see ourselves in a good way. But, if we hear a lot of negative words, it can make us feel less confident and valuable.

Consider the conversations we have with others. Words laden with encouragement and support can create an environment that fosters growth. Conversely, critical, or demeaning words can leave lasting scars on our self-esteem.

It’s not just about external influences; our internal dialogue matters immensely. The way we frame our thoughts and the language we use internally can shape our attitudes and actions. Choosing words that reflect resilience, and optimism can contribute to a more positive self-perception.

Understanding the impact of words on our self-image is crucial for personal development. By cultivating awareness of the language, we use, both internally and externally, we can actively contribute to a healthier and more robust sense of self. Words are not just communication tools; they are building blocks that construct the foundation of our self-image.

In the complex relationship between our minds and bodies, there’s a significant link that shapes how we feel overall. It’s important to know that having a positive mental state can help with feeling good about our bodies. When we have a positive mindset, it sets the stage for a better and more appreciative connection with our bodies.

Getting to a positive body image involves reflecting on yourself and doing things on purpose. Start by noticing and liking the special things that make you who you are. Instead of always thinking about what’s not perfect, take a moment to be proud of the amazing things your body can do.

Avoid comparing yourself to others and realize that everyone’s journey is different. Have a mindset that sees your body as more than just how it looks, recognizing its strength, resilience, and ability to manage life’s challenges well. This way, you’re on a journey to build a positive and strong connection with your body.

Keep in mind that building a positive view of your body takes time, and even little steps can make  an enormous difference in how you feel overall. Enjoy the journey, give yourself time, and cheer on the progress you see. Both your mental well-being and how you see your body are important, so take care and focus on these things to live a satisfying and balanced life.

Harnessing the power of words to boost self-esteem is a skill that can positively influence our mindset and overall well-being. Here are some effective ways to use words for this purpose:

1. Affirmations: Incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine. Repeat phrases that reinforce your strengths and capabilities. For example, “I am capable and strong,” or “I believe in my abilities.”
2. Positive Self-Talk: Monitor your internal dialogue. Replace self-critical thoughts with encouraging and supportive language. Instead of saying, “I can’t do this,” try saying, “I will do my best, and that’s enough.”
3. Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how small. Use words to express pride in what you’ve achieved. Recognize your efforts and the progress you’ve made.
4. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Engage in conversations that uplift and inspire. Choose words that promote a positive atmosphere. Be mindful of the language used by others and seek out supportive connections.
5. Set Realistic Goals: Frame your goals in a positive light. Instead of saying, “I should do this,” say, “I choose to work towards this goal because it aligns with my values.”
6. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself in times of difficulty. Use words of self-compassion, acknowledging that everyone faces challenges, and it’s okay not to be perfect.
7. Gratitude Expressions: Verbalize gratitude for the positive aspects of your life. Acknowledging the good things can shift your focus and contribute to a more positive self-perception.
8. Use Empowering Language: Choose words that convey strength and resilience. Replace disempowering language with empowering alternatives. For example, say “I will overcome this obstacle” instead of “I can’t handle this.”
9. Reflect on Positive Feedback: When receiving positive feedback, internalize those words. Allow them to reinforce your sense of accomplishment and worth. Acknowledge the value others see in you.
10. Mindful Communication: Be aware of the words you use in conversations with yourself and others. Use language that promotes understanding, empathy, and encouragement.

By incorporating these practices into your daily life, you can leverage the transformative power of words to cultivate a positive self-esteem and a healthier self-image.

Using positive words is like a powerful tool for feeling better about ourselves. When we intentionally choose encouraging words and practice saying pleasant things, it builds a positive self-image. This daily habit doesn’t just change our internal thoughts but also influences how we interact with the world. The ripple effect of positive words extends beyond personal affirmations, affecting our conversations and relationships with others. This simple act creates an atmosphere of kindness and growth, not just for  us but for everyone around us. It’s a secret weapon for building a more positive view of  us and making the world a more supportive place.

In the end, using positive words is like a secret weapon for feeling better about yourself. It’s not about being perfect, but about making small changes in how you talk to yourself and others. These little shifts can add up to a big boost in confidence and a more positive view of who you are. So, keep on choosing words that lift you, celebrate your strengths, and remember that the way you talk to yourself matters – it’s key to building a stronger and happier you.